Learn how to surround with really interesting people: How to differentiate the talkers from the doers

I was in a very nice restaurant in one of the coolest parts of the city. On both sides of my table, there were business people talking. Can you guess what they were talking about? That’s right, business.

They were speaking loud as if they had the necessity to be heard. Not only by the other people in their table, apparently, they wanted to be heard by the whole restaurant.

They tried to appear interesting no matter what. They were talking about how Mexico has unequal wages, and how other countries like South Korea, that also have metallurgical industry, have managed to constantly improve the wages in the last years, while Mexico hasn’t. They complained about the ridiculously low Mexican minimum salary, while Korea’s salary keeps improving at higher rates.

These people ended their breakfast and returned to their offices, and probably they forgot that conversation…Or, what’s the probability of them arriving at their offices and doing something in their own companies to improve the minimum salary or the quality of work for their employees?

That’s what happens with most of us. We talk, and talk, and talk. We pretend we are important, interesting, that we know about economy, politics, about the latest news…but that’s it. That’s our reach. Being informed about a couple of topics to pretend to be important or intelligent while we have business breakfasts with our peers.

I don’t care about that anymore. For me, really interesting people are the ones who put their actions where their mouth is. The ones who act and execute according to what they say. That’s the challenge, that’s my challenge: becoming an interesting person with my acts…not with my words. I want to become interesting for what I do, not for what I say.

Think about it, how many times have you been disappointed by someone who said a lot of things, but then you realize nothing of that was real?

How many times have you been wrong about someone you thought was interesting, just to realize they were full of bullshit?

It has happened a lot to me.

Now think about how many times you said, “this person is great” because you actually saw him doing something great. It’s more difficult to get disappointed by seeing someone doing something great instead of just hearing him saying something great.

There’s a huge difference between saying and doing.

So, my proposal to anyone who is reading this post is that you should start using a new standard to help you with a better assessment of your relations.

Apply the ‘Pay per view’ philosophy: Trust in people, but demand proofs and actions to keep growing that trust…Words are not enough.

Applying the ‘Pay per view’ philosophy has helped me a lot: Now I’m more conscious of what I say and helps me align my words with my values, my beliefs and with who I am. It helps me sound less stupid, less pretentious, and is a constant reminder of how much I hate people who only talk but never do anything.

This is a great tool to help us be more authentic. Lately, I’m talking less bullshit, and this is freeing some space in my head to have meaningful conversations with more authentic people.

Every time I’m in a restaurant and the people at the tables around me start talking about some pretentious stuff, I just feel grateful to be applying the ‘Pay per view’ philosophy. I don’t care anymore about what people say, I don’t care anymore about sounding interesting to anyone, now I’m focused on being effective with my actions and put my time and effort where my mouth is…